Good marriages actually do exist and even though it might not seem it, are growing in numbers. Marriages that are enjoyable and fulfilling are not as elusive as they might seem. Working toward a wonderful relationship between two people that are married is something that more couples should strive for.

There are behaviors which will aid in helping a marriage to become a fulfilling relationship. Against popular opinion, people have great control over how their marriage turns out. Do not be deceived; you can make or break your marriage.

Allowing your spouse to truly see who you are is very healthy. Marriage, a true sharing of each other, is first and foremost about listening, being transparent and communicating from your heart. Several important factors in developing a fulfilling marriage is; being transparent, respecting each other and nurturing and supporting one another.

As a society, we tend to spend a lot of time on our hair, our bodies, etc. and seem to put at the bottom of the list that which is so very important to us; our marriage. In order for your marriage to grow and stay healthy, there needs to be effort and selflessness, which of course can be hard, but when you perceive the rewards of your behavior, it will become much easier. Deciding to get married is a big decision and when that happens, making sure that each person understands that the marriage will turn out exactly in direct correlation to what you put into it.

Marriages, whether people want to admit it or not, go through emotional hurricanes; but if you realize this, you are better prepared for the next phase. Marriages, being a big observer of my own and many around me, go through many stages of development that you can pretty much predict. If a person gets married and they are not aware of what is good and bad behavior in a marriage, then they will not be aware of the stages of development that happen and be able to watch for them.

The stages of a marriage are very interesting and many times confusing all at the same moment, with one of the stages of your relationship being all flowers and symphonies as you wonder how you ever lived without this person in your life. The stages of marriage include good and bad phases and one of them is that you wonder what the heck you were thinking that you even married this person. Marriage and its stages creates so many emotions which includes the stage where you love your spouse yet you dont like his: smelly breath in the morning, the way she takes forever to get ready for an event and the list goes on and on.

When two people are married it is so very vital that you force yourself to remember that you are not opponents, but playing on the same team. When youre married, you must be very cautious that in the middle of a heated discussion you dont say things that you know you are going to be very sorry you said the next day. Every marriage has many valley and mountaintop experiences and you eventually learn that when something comes out of your mouth, many times youre very sorry you said it such as: the day I married you was the worse day of my life, you are a horrible lover, why would I want kids that will end up like you and we all know that list is endless.

If and when you get to the point in your marriage where you really understand that perseverance is the cornerstone of happiness, then you will find yourself in the middle of many truly blissful times in your relationship. Just like everything else that exists in life, marriage is full of many good moments and many bad moments, but your perspective on each and every one of those times is what will help keep you together. Marriage, full of peaks and valleys, can be your best friend or your worse enemy.