Just a few years ago, I was 26 years old. I had been with my boyfriend for over two years and all of my friends were either engaged or married. It seemed like it was my turn next, but it also seemed like that might never happen. He never seemed ready to propose to me.

I had really wanted to settle down and get to the next stage of my life. I was also sure about the fact that he was who I wanted to marry.

We had been together for a long time at this point. I didn’t know what was holding him back and I honestly started to wonder if he was having doubts about it all.

I began to nag him about it (which I’ve learned you shouldn’t do), but it turns out that he had been planning on proposing within a matter of weeks anyway.

It was just several weeks later when it asked me to marry him. It was a warm Saturday afternoon and I can honestly say that I was totally shocked. I didn’t see it coming whatsoever.

This begs the question, when should he propose? Was 2 years and a few months too long, or should people wait this long to really figure things out? Does age play any kind of a hand in determining the answer to that question?

My answer to this question is that it honestly depends on the situation. Some people need to wait until they get more financially secure, and some people really just need to find their way and figure it out on its own.

Still, you definitely have a right to ask. You’re not involved with him just for the sake of wasting your time, and you want to make sure that you’re both of the same mindset when it comes to these things.